So a friend and I were on the much-hated topic of networking the other day, and he said something about trying to network with the gay partners at our firm, but failing because a lot of them are jerks (please note that I don’t think the gay partners are jerks, and I didn’t follow up on his comment), and the following conversation ensued:
Me: Yeah, I hear you. I ate lunch with the Mormons last week. Not that the Mormons are jerks…
Friend, laughing: But I’m guessing you don’t have a lot in common with them.
Me: Actually, one of them was a Democrat. And a man! That never happens!
Friend: You know, I think I have a skewed perspective of the Mormon church. Because all the Mormons I know are really cool and open-minded.
Hooray, right? I take his observation less as a compliment toward me and more as a compliment to all the LDS people who’ve encountered my friend and left him with a positive impression of the church. To the girl who told him he could bring a partner to her wedding reception: thanks for being a decent person. I also had to chide myself a bit, though. I try to show people that Mormons are different than they think, but then I perpetuate stereotypes by insulting other members of my faith. I try so hard to be different that it ends up reflecting badly on the church, I fear. Because why would I need to separate myself from something that’s such an integral part of my life?